How To Get Your Ex Back

If you’ve just gone through a breakup, then amidst all of the pain and heartbreak is probably a deep longing for your ex boyfriend. Reconciliation is always the number one hope, which is why you are probably spending so much of your time wondering how to make him want you back so that you can get back together and stay that way.

This was just the question that Kelly came to me with. She was devastated by the end of her three year relationship with Steve, and spoke to me tearfully about her efforts to get her ex back. “All I can think about is how to make him want me back. I’m just so desperate to get back together, but everything that I try just seems to push him further away. Is there anything I can do to make him want me again?”

The good news — for her and for you — is that it definitely is possible. While knowing just how to get your ex back and keep him is more lengthy than I could possibly explain fully in just one article. But there are a couple surprising ways to make him want you back, and that’s definitely where you should start. First of all, you need to give your guy some space, and secondly, you need to concentrate on yourself. Most of the things that women usually do in an attempt to get their guy back are actually counterproductive. Things like texting, calling, and trying to get him to speak to you are desperate attempts, and they will only drive him further away from you. You need to relax — at least superficially — and let go of him for now. If you can manage it, you should eliminate any and all contact completely. If your circumstances mean that you two see each other often, then you should keep whatever contact you do have to a businesslike minimum.

This will accomplish four things. One, it will give him some space to breath, so he doesn’t feel trapped by you. Two, he’ll actually get a chance to miss you and realize that maybe he regrets letting you go. Third, he’ll start to wonder why you’re leaving him be, and he’ll worry that maybe you’ve moved on and don’t love him anymore. And lastly, it will give your mind some space to think about an all-important someone else… you.

This is really important. While you’re mind may be totally focused on how to make him miss you and want you back, in order for him to be able to love you, you need to love yourself as well. Make sure that you are taking good care of yourself — getting sleep, healthy food, enough exercise, and making sure to have a good time, as hard as it might be. You need to get out with your girlfriends and involve yourself in activities you enjoy. Build up your social life, and make sure that you are living life to it’s fullest.

There are so many different things you can do to “pamper” yourself, and you need to make it a priority. This will help you focus on the real you, the part of yourself that got neglected when you started having relationship problems. While it will probably be difficult at first, you’ll get better and better at it, and soon it will be second nature. Eventually you might possibly decide that you’re no longer interested in your ex, it will also accomplish the purpose of letting him see you at your best. And when you do move ahead and contact him, he’ll be more attracted to you, seeing that you that he fell in love with originally, only more exciting and attractive.